Points to Follow to the Second Date

by Pam Baldwin

Let’s turn back the clock. You’ve gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you’re not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.

Write down what you did on your first date, and something you liked about each event. This is an invaluable bit of information for the follow-up phone call. Recalling specific details of the date is a very subtle way of showing interest in your lady.

Secondly, do an exercise to build your confidence. Talking to yourself in the mirror, doing jumping jacks to gain adrenaline, or calling a friend to gain confidence, are all good ways to conjure up the big man on campus in you for that call. This is an important step, but don’t take it too far! cockiness, is a major turn off for women!

Dial that number! when she answers, make sure you clearly state who are to avoid any embarrassing and confidence deflating moments. Make sure you talk for a couple minutes about her. How she’s doing, what she did today, are vital questions to ask. She’ll know you’re a good listner, and women like that! Ask one follow-up question to her answers. Any more and she may think you’re bugging her, but asking an extra question might just give you points in her book.

Now for the important moment! Inquire about her plans later in the week. Women like time to prepare to go out with men, so it’s important to leave her some time to do this. If she’s available, just ask her if she wants to get together. Keep it casual, since you don’t want to frighten her away. If it happens that she does have plans, tell her why you called. You had a lot of fun with her last time, and would like to know if she’s interested in going out with you again. Be sure to keep it light, and don’t sound desperate!

She said yes? Great! Well, if this isn’t you, don’t worry. If you’re really that interested in going on a second date with that specific person, tell her that if she has some free time and would like to go out with you, that she call you. She may call back for another date when she feels like it is on her terms. She may not call at all. Don’t hold your breath, or wait by the phone.

If you didn’t get that call, or she wasn’t very interested in going out again, go back to the drawing board. Think about the first date. Were you dressed appropriately for the occasion? Did you listen to her? Did you take interest in the things she cares about? Were you curteous? Did you Open her door? If this is you, but she still didn’t want to go out. Try again with someone else. They may just not be the right person for you.

Lastly, be sure to be yourself. People like people. Trying to be someone you are not, will only land you in trouble down the road. Be kind. Be courteous. Be a good listener. Be involved. Be spontaneous! If you can follow these simple directions, i’m sure that second date will be a piece of cake.

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