Top 3 Most Common Mistakes Made During a Breakup

by Erik J. Michaels

There are a lot of things that can go wrong when you are fresh out of a breakup and desperate to get your life back on track. Most of these harmful behaviors can be fixed or balanced out if you can just identify them and stop them immediately. Once you get out of your own way, the path to recovery can be very simple. Here are a few of the mistakes you could be making right now.

1) Drunken Dialing - Alcohol is never a solution to your problems, but it can help to dull the pain so its not surprising that a lot of people drink during a heavy breakup. Unfortunately, this can lead to Drunk Dialing, when you are so depressed and had so much to drink that a late-night phone call to the ex actually starts to sound like a good idea.

Regardless of how clear it is by the sober light of day that this is a really bad idea, it still happens and can be easy to fall to when you feel so heartachingly lonely and depressed. My best advice is that if you drink you should try to keep it in moderation so that you still have your full faculties…I know it kind of defeats the purpose of drinking during depression, but alcohol isnt going to solve your problems anyway.

2) Text-Message Terrorism - The coined name for this may sound a little dramatic, but so is the act itself. This is when (often fresh out the breakup and fresh into Panic Mode), you freak out and bomb your ex with message after message trying to stay in his thoughts and convince him to take you back.

It is really easy to fall into this. Even if it doesnt seem like something you would do, being in such a turmoil can make you very desperate…desperate enough to practically harass your ex with constant calls. This will only alienate you and your ex, and drive him to be so tired of you that he avoids you entirely…which makes getting him back significantly harder.

3) The Endless Slump - You are so depressed that life just stops having any meaning, and so you completely stop living it. You stop going out, whether its to work or to class, and certainly not with friends. You sit at home at all hours of the day, sleeping half the time and sobbing over daytime television the other half. Life just starts to pass you by as you refuse to keep on living it.

You cannot let this happen to you. Time is not on your side if you just waste it sobbing on your couch watching daytime TV and alienating yourself from your friends, family, and job. You could lose so much with this kind of slump, that it can wreck your life. All you can do is drudge ahead and force yourself to overcome this…the cost of not doing so is too much to have to pay.

These are only three of the issues you may face, but it is very important that you try to avoid them at all costs. It is okay if you have already fell to one or all of them, but the time is now to stop letting these behaviors harm you. If you can rid yourself of these problems and develop a complete and well thought-out plan, you will soon discover just how easy it can be to get your ex back and get your life back on track.

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